Every person has always a choice in any situation or condition, even in the most desperate. We can decide to rebuild a relationship. The one who decided to love is committed beyond feelings or not love and independently from the other. It is not easy because when you live a great sorrow, it absorbs all the energy, but the person has incredible ability and creative resources.When you take the decision to love for free, you make changes to restore unity, often it takes the rediscovery of serenity. It is the cycle of married life: romance, disappointment, despair and resurrection. It’s important to know that you do not reach the final stage to remain there, but you continue to rotate through the steps already described. So, is the paschal mystery that is repeated constantly throughout our lives even with small deaths and small daily resurrections.
A trusting attitude is the necessary basis for a journey of rediscovery of oneself, or each others.The real faith does not come automatically, especially when it has been betrayed. It’s a painful and slow process. To risk again it’a a personal choise. The person chooses to believe to be lovable, because we were created and called to life with love, so worthy that the spouse undertakes with her forever. This means considered however to be accepted and loved and find out that your spouse is created in the image and likeness of the Creator, so infinitely greater than he appears.
It’s important to make a process of rediscovery for themselves and others. Each person is not a mistake, because God does not produce waste. In fact, in the Genesis book, after completing the creation, the Lord sees everything he had done and he was really very good. This image of goodness and beauty refers to any person, without exception.