PORN ADDICTION BESIEGES OUR YOUTH: HOW TO SAVE THEM

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Modesty appears to be more and more a stranger concept to the youth, so accustomed to the use of vulgar language. It is not a phenomenon to be underestimated, nor to be relegate to a harmless infantile and adolescent curiosity. Being immersed in a pornography culture from an early age, entails risks which are anything but negligible.

The alarm was launched by a group of psychologists, educators, teachers and communication experts working together for the Pioneer Project. “Show Me Love” is born in this context, a challenge of the duration of the whole month of June, to combat the phenomenon of pornography and hyper sexualization.

In Terris spoke with DR. Marco Scicchitano, Psychotherapist President of the project. “From the outcome of our researches – he explained – it emerges that already at the age of eight, children talk about sexual relations, having full knowledge about them”.

Dr. Scicchitano, how is your work concretely structured?
It is a public awareness campaign on pornography and for the promotion of a healthy affective sexual education. We associate a teaching aid produced thanks to donations to each stage of the development and to the themes associated with it, and we dedicate five days of study in depth with video, scientific articles, multimedia information. The project, according to us, is fundamental and innovative. In Italy, there is nothing similar. We insist on the involvement of families, through the social media and the crowdfunding campaign founded on the principle of subsidiarity. “Let us organize ourselves in order to give us parents the tools that we need.”

How much does the internet access affect the spread of pornography among the youngest?
Internet access does not affect the spread of pornography, but it is precisely the main channel. The progressive decrease of the age limit for receiving a smartphone as a gift, as well as the ease of access to pornographic content through these instruments, mean that young people often come in contact with sexually and degrading explicit material too soon.

It is therefore important to remain vigilant as parents on the use of new technologies by children, but inhibitions have considerably loosened everywhere, in the media and in the mass culture. How to preserve the childhood from these pervasive influences?
We need a new awareness that must be both familiar, but also community and social. For this reason, we will bring this initiative forward also in the years to come, because we realize that it is a long journey that requires the involvement primarily of families, but also of the, political, educational and associative institutions.

Awareness of families that passes from dialog between parents-children. How do you talk to a child?
I would say that there is not a standard rule, but there is a golden rule. Every child has his moment, has his own particular sensitivity, belongs to an affective context. Every child needs a language that is tailored on him and on his times. The major problems are not so much on the content of the information and of the images, but on times. “When” is fundamental and many do not realize it. It is therefore advisable to wait for the child to ask questions or to show interest, or take the initiative where you perceive that otherwise you will be preceded by others. For this reason, we part of the Pioneer Project, think it is a methodological error to not involve families in the courses on the affectivity and sexuality in schools.

How much is prn addiction widespread in the youngest age groups? Is it a growing phenomenon?
Yes, it is very widespread and it is growing. The language is getting stained with expressions captured directly in the slang of the acronyms and names of porn. Practically all the boys have seen pornography on the devices, and many of them systematically watch certain videos.

A few years ago, the magazine “Violence and victims” published a study, organised by the University of Georgia which associates the increase in violence against women with the spread of pornography, because the latter would have relegated women to a mere object of desire. What do you think about it?
I totally agree. The imaginary evoked by most of the porn scenes tends to stimulate the most archaic parties of human instinctiveness, and not by chance. As a clinician with more than ten years of experience I know that a way to make money is to stimulate in consumers compulsive, irrational, repeated dependencies even if harmful. We should recall in this regard the so-called #virtualrape. The media attention raised on secret groups operating in social media, where people published photos of girls and women destined to private use and then react with violent phrases and unheard vulgarity. The porn videos are the place where these men learned a certain language and to consider the woman an object to discharge not only sexual, but also aggressive and often pathological instincts. This reality is brilliantly synthesized in a scene of a recent film.

Which one?
“Jeeg Robot”, when it describes the first intimate encounter between the two protagonists. A sweet love, marked by compassion and sweetness, by desire and protection that when should finally blossom in the meeting of the bodies, falls and degrades because of the brutality with which the boy is accustomed to live and to conceive sexuality. An attitude learned watching porno videos. “Sorry” – he then says the shocked girl – “I do not know how to love, please teach me”.

As psychologist, do you believe that the large-scale diffusion of pornography may be related to the demographic crisis?
I cannot speak with certainty about so large areas, given that there is a plurality of variables that should be taken into consideration to make sensible statements. Certainly, the spread of pornography on a large scale is causing harm to the psycho affective development of boys and this would compromise the ability to establish lasting and stable relations, ideal for the birth and the development of families with numerous children.

Would you agree to block porn sites?
Blocking the pornographic sites would be a political act and therefore it is outside my competence. However, in general, I am in favour of the censure where it expresses the common sense of deleting malicious and vulgar content. But I am even more convinced that we must first make families and individuals responsible. Delegating the management of this issue to an intervention of the state, from my point of view it would be like washing our hands. We all need to do something and each one in his position must act to show our children that it is possible to love with respect, modesty, friendship, sharing and reciprocity.

Your project is bringing you in many schools and parishes. What kind of acknowledgment do you have from young people?
Excellent I would say, I have recently been to Loreto where I met 160 boys and an enthusiastic mom who wrote this exchange of messages with his son:

“Do you know that I found the Instagram page of the Pioneer Project? “
“Ah!… Then Davide, what do you say …did you like the conference of Scicchitano?”
“Yes… you can see that is one who knows what he says. Not like many others who talk, talk, and then.”
“Yes?”
“Yes… we could understand that he knew what he was talking about… you could see it from the way he looked at us… from his eyes”

For me there is no greater gratification for my commitment that to be considered from these guys a credible witness to what I say. Because I tell them great things, I talk to them about desire and fidelity, sensuality and respect, love, procreation and self-control. The fact that looking into my eyes a boy thinks that I am sincere, reassures me.

June is going to end. How will your commitment continue?
“Show Me love” is a project that will go forward cyclically every year. Alongside it other important initiatives as an online petition that we will launch in September to ask Italy to follow up the resolution with which the Parliamentary Assembly of the Council of Europe invites to counteract the hyper sexualization of children. Then we will organise training meetings for trainers, with the youth and activities through social media. Now, as I said before, if we care about the fate of this generation, it is necessary to do something and we are doing it with a concrete project that will be available to all the families of Italy. We need support to achieve our goal, and therefore we also ask the readers of in Terris to view our web page, check sure the goodness (or less) of our approach and to support us already from today on the website Patreon. As we always say, the attitude that we want to preserve is to look to the future with hope and to the present with responsibility.

 

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