Man is a ‘‘synolon’’, that is to say, a union between body and soul. Everything the soul experiences affects the body and everything the body experiences affects the soul. Marriage is intimate love and life communion between man and woman, so that they are not two, but one flesh. In marriage, when the betrothed say “I take you to be my lawfully husband, my lawfully wife”, that very moment they partake in the grace of the sacrament. It consists in Christ’s love towards his Church, that enters, as a new ingredient, the human love of those who celebrate marriage.
Human love, – beautiful, yet fragile – becomes stronger and reinvigorates boosted by the love of Christ. The sacrament of matrimony creates an everlasting and exclusive bond between the spouses. God himself seals the consent of the spouses. Marriage settled and consumed by the baptized cannot be dissolved unless there was unawareness or lack of will and freedom to get married.
The grace of a wedlock is nourished by prayer and Eucharist. A wrong way of thinking and being results in divorce: The spouses do not stand each other anymore. What hurts the most is that children do not matter, they are not taken into consideration. Children, on the other hand, prefer their parents’ death to their separation. Not everyone thinks this way, actually they think the opposite. Yet, it is scientifically proved that a child will never accept his parents’ separation. Why? The child is the embodied sign of his parents, of their communion. The son or the daughter does not need paternal love, they need their father’s love towards their mother and their mother’s love towards their father. When children see their parents getting separated or divorced, they feel death in their heart and think: “I do not mean anything to them, otherwise they would not separate”.
Despite the fact that they live in objectively irregular situations, the Church does not abandon its children, quite the contrary. Nevertheless, those who got divorced and then remarried cannot provide to the religious community services that require full Christian testimony. Besides, the Church cannot admit them to sacramental reconciliation and Eucharistic communion.
Based on At the Heart of the Families.
Translated by Ecaterina Severin